The condition of living without fear.
A system in balance.
The intentional infliction of pain.
The willingness to control one's own behavior or to set boundary on the behavior of others insofar as it affects oneself.
The intentional statement of something known to be untrue.
Feeling good in the presence of the other. The combination of passion, acceptance and commitment.
The willingness to devote energy into accomplishment for self or assistance of others.
The experience of imbalance.
The willingness to devote interest or energy to another person or activity.
The quiet form of aggressive behavior.
Path of Wisdom
That place between the two swamps (see Swamp) characterized by the creation of safety and Congruent Action.
A set of guidelines for the conduct of life. Everybody needs one, or congruence is not possible.
The intelligent management of human relationships.
The antidote to shame, blame and guilt by simply owning what is in your control, and refusing what isn't.
Physical, emotional, sexual and interpersonal sense of well being in the presence of others.
The value I place on the decisions I've made in the last 24 hours. (See Elements of Self Esteem)
The acceptance of guilt.
Mutually agreed upon minimum forms of behavior.
Swamp of Right
That place reserved for people who buy into the illusion that they will be safe if they are right, in control or better than others. Leads to argument.
Swamp of Wrong
That place reserved for people who lose the hope of being safe with another and therefore don't care what they do. Leads to apathy, passive-aggressive behavior.
The ability to predict another person's behavior 80-90 percent of the time in a given situation. Nobody's perfect.
The creation of mutual safety; also the product of self esteem.
What we do when we want to control something and we can't.